... the problem arises when one's words are significantly
divergent from one's actions... if the space between the two is too wide,
pathology is born both on an individual and collective level. This is the space of the birthplace of
neuroses that can grow into insanity. It is the seedbed of propaganda and
tyranny... not to mention good old-fashioned lies. Add charisma to the picture, the ability to
convince others and one's own conviction that the wide space between one's
words and deeds is non-existent, and what do you get? Manipulative anti-social
dystopia or serious personality disorder…. a collective ruled by the insane.
In addition to being a Certified Professional Life Coach, for over thirty years I've worked as a social worker in a wide variety of fields, from psychiatric social work to adolescent counseling. I spent eleven years as a family counselor with a hospice organization. I am licensed in the state of Michigan as a social worker and am ordained as a minister. One of my specialties is highly personalized and/or alternative pre-marital and wedding coaching.
Coaching offers me a collaborative way to approach the issues and problems people face. It is strengths based. I believe people have the resources and skill to uncover their own best way to help overcome and cope with life’s quandaries, losses and growth.
These are the areas of coaching in which I can be of assistance:
~ Family and Primary Relationships ~ Life Change Due to Illness, Divorce or Other Loss ~ Communication Dynamics for Managers in the Workplace ~ Grief and Loss ~ Creative Process for artists and writers ~ Alternative Long Term Relationships ~ Pre-wedding planning and coaching ~ Overcoming Patterns of Self Defeating Behavior
In addition I have been a widely published poet and writer, photographer, playwright, actor and director. I enjoy rustic camping, hiking and backpacking. I am an avid swimmer, gardener and canner.
My Job as a Coach
"My job as a coach is to facilitate, not lead... to help my clients lead themselves inside their own sets of norms and values. While I have some pretty strong and dependable values of my own, as well as opinions, it is completely outside of my job as a coach to allow those opinions to be overly influential in how I facilitate each clients' journey with me. I see that facilitation as shining a light on processes that are often already in place, but may be hidden, may be tangled in the thorny briers of the stuff of life that can keep clarity of direction hidden; perhaps to help a client see what exactly needs to be built next, or that the travel along the path is already being undertaken. In clearing away the brambles it can be taken with more purpose and more direction."
"Bob’s patience, his clear, direct style of coaching, along with his natural empathy and enthusiasm allowed me to find the inspiration within me, to spread my wings and start flying.Bob didn’t fix anything wrong with me, instead, he helped me discover what was lying within me , waiting to unfold. I feel whole and authentic, clearer than ever as to which directions I want to take in my life. " - Claire Molinard
“Bob has always been a great support for me. He has a gentle style of coaching. He has helped shift my perspective many times always supporting me to keep moving forward. Even though I have wanted to quit he always knew how to re-motivate me. and clarify what I want” -- Brandon Williams
“I liked Bob’s challenges and the thinking they often opened up for me. He was generous in spirit and with his time and I appreciated the extra support and interaction we had by e-mail. His compassion and humanity were very evident to me.” -- Iris Arenson-Fuller
"Not being able to meet with Bob in person, left us skeptical as to whether coaching would work for us. After our first phone session and a few awkward minutes, Bob was able to take control and put all our fears to rest. Bob has a unique ability to really listen. You don’t have to be sitting across from him to know that you have his complete attention." -- Penny and Larry Everett
“Bob had the ability to keep me on track with a consistency in message and support. He gave me a place to detach from drama and observe process. Help with more objective analysis of my process. He is nonjudgmental.” -- Mary Schimmel
“Bob brought a high level of personal concern and compassion while maintaining professional distance and critical thinking. He was insightful, thought provoking and supportive.” -- Theo McCracken
Here is a free informational database whose sole purpose is to offer a free informational resource to both the consumer and professional public. An impressive resource for professionals and lay people alike www.greattherapist.org
Like sending cards via email but don't like the trite and childish collections most often found? Try this selection of ecards from the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) in New York http://www.moma.org/ecards/
Here are three of my favorite sources of current events news and comment. Common Dreams, The Independent out of the UK and Democracy Now!. I contend that self actualized people are politically engaged and independently progressive people. http://www.commondreams.org/
Coaching is about becoming aware of how to live life to the fullest. It is a way to explore and find personal and vocational direction. It helps develop confidence in problem solving, and an assertive approach toward realizing potential. Just as an athlete works with a coach to achieve success in sports, a coach can help motivate and inspire. A coach is a partner and guide.
I come to coaching with a wide repertoire of skills and experience. My career is highlighted by hands-on learning, in real-life situations, integrated with the flexible use of widely diverse theories and techniques. With those I coach as the focus, and because each person brings a unique set of experiences, strengths, hopes and dreams, I expect and need to learn as much from those I coach as they do from our sessions. Each session, and my work with each person, is entirely individualized. My job is to assist each person in the development of their own self improvement strategies. We discover, uncover and implement hidden or under-utilized strengths and gifts.
In the end I feel it is my job to help those I coach become their own coach.
How does it work?
The number and frequency of coaching sessions, as well as a price and payment plan, are arrived at individually according to the needs and goals of each prospective client. This plan is a mutual agreement between myself and those I coach, usually arrived at during a free trial session. I can also discuss some particulars via email or introductory phone calls. Payment can be made per number of sessions, monthly, or weekly. Arrangements can be made for bartering of services. There may be discounts for advance payments for more multiple sessions.
Where would we meet?
I can accommodate both in-person, telephone and Skype contacts with email as a additional tool. I am happy to visit my clients at their homes or offices. Together we decide which form, or what combination, will work best, as well as who places any phone session calls. I am happy to work with people from anywhere in the world, but can work in English only.