I always found that new ways of being often unfold without a fully conscious input from us as we go forward; as if we recognize after the change has been in process for a while exactly what characterizes it. We just keep putting one foot in front of the other and suddenly the light goes on: "Oh yeah, that's who I have become!"
Four questions to ask yourself about recognizing and tracking inner change:
- What little things are you doing that are revised or new?
- Do they feel okay enough to keep around?
- How do you distinquish between what is forward motion and what is regression?
- Is regression sometimes a way forward?